15 Ways To Love Me

Once in a while on LJ, the "--- Ways To Love Me" meme goes around. I thought I'd nab it and start my own. A lot of the time you get stuff like "buy me such and such" or "give me ice cream or backrubs" and things like that. I decided I wanted mine to be a bit more meaningful than that. So here it is: How To Love Me

1) Don't disrespect my family. Any of them, but especially my immediate family. Even if you think that I'm mad or disappointed or peeved with anyone in my family, that's not an excuse to insult them on my behalf. It's the rare person who has disrespected my family and gotten a second chance from me. This goes double for my parents.

2) Accept that my pets and I are a package deal. You don't have to love my dogs or be enamoured of my iguana or pretend to adore my birds. But don't assume that I'm silly for feeling the way I do about them. They are part of my family. Don't belittle my attachment to them.

3) Accept my fringey and weird friends. I have a small social circle made up of the craziest and most eccentric and eclectic kinds of people. I don't "collect" people. They are honestly my friends who happen to have a wide variety of interests. Don't judge them because you think they are weird or different. If they weren't good people I wouldn't hang out with them.

4) Likewise don't judge me for my weird interests, although they may seem childish to you. I like anime and manga and video games. I am a Star Wars geek who has a pewter Millennium Falcon in the back window of her car. I like to run around in the woods brandishing a sword and making up stupid movies with my friends. I will probably be this way until I'm 90, or until I can't walk anymore.

5) Don't push religion on me. That's the surest way not to earn my friendship.

6) Don't push your lifestyle on me. Accept mine and let me live it. I'm a vegetarian and a supporter of animal rights. I don't talk the talk much (I won't bother you for habits,) but I walk the walk. That also means that I don't use products that have been tested on animals if I can help it. Most animal lovers don't bother to avoid stuff like that, but I am as diligent as possible about it. It's not strange or pathetic and I don't like to have to defend it all the time.

7) Don't hate on others--or me--because of race. ANY race. In the past I've been insulted because I'm part white (and dance Hula--at least one person hated me because of it,) and also because I'm part Italian, part Irish, and part Native American. DO NOT diss on Native Americans if we are to get along.

8) When you find out that I'm a Hula dancer, don't wiggle your hips and arms and ask to see my coconut bra. I don't even own one. It's my duty to try my best to malama--to care for--the Hawaiian culture. Don't disrespect it!

9) When you find out that I am learning Kung Fu, don't assume that I'm not good at it because I am a girl or that I'm taking it just to be tough. If I'm not good at it or do something wrong, it's because of my own personal limits, NOT because I am a woman. Some of the best students in the academy are women. My first Lao Shir is a woman and she outranks and outclasses each and every single man in the academy aside from Sifu. My decision to learn Kung Fu was not frivolous or based on vanity.

10) A tiger cannot change its stripes, I guess. I'm 33 and will probably always be lazy and unambitious. On my days off, I sleep soundly until 10 AM, and then I like to spend the rest of the day writing, drawing, cleaning, or playing with my pets. My only true ambitions are to teach Hula and to become a published writer. My genre is fantasy / sci-fi. I might not be the best at it, but it's something I love doing.

11) Don't assume because I've drawn something or made an animation or otherwise spent some time on a project that I've got "too much time on my hands." It's called a hobby. Everyone should have them, and that's what free time is for.

12) I love a good laugh, and I can get pretty vulgar and stupid with my friends when we get on a roll. But keep in mind that when it comes down to it, I demand and deserve respect. Jokes are just that: jokes, and my friends and I don't mean anything by them. So when we yell at each other, "HEY WHORE!" understand that this is a running gag among close friends, and none of us are to actually be treated that way.

13) Call before coming to my house! No one appreciates a drop-in, least of all me.

14) That said, don't call me on the phone all the time. If you've got my phone number, use it sparingly. I don't like talking on the phone. Understand that it's just a quirk of mine, and don't take it personally. I'm not one of these people who needs to chat the day away on the phone in order to feel accepted.

15) This is a big one: Don't drink and drive. I don't like to nag my friends, but when someone drinks and then thinks it's all right to drive, it makes me sick. Even if someone is just buzzed or thinks that their buzz is wearing off, and they go to drive, it still makes me sick. Don't expect ME to drink and drive. If I've got to drive, I won't even have a single alcoholic drink. If you do this kind of thing, and you finally get pulled over and get a DWI, I won't say "I told you so." I'll just be quietly relieved that you got caught before you hurt someone or yourself. Also, I'm more than happy to be anyone's desi, and I'm always available to pick up any of my friends who has had a drink and doesn't have any other way home.

You can do all of that? In that case,

Roses are #ff0000
Violets are #000ff
All my base
Are belong to YOU! *

^_^


(*I own that T shirt)

15 Ways To Love Me

Once in a while on LJ, the "--- Ways To Love Me" meme goes around. I thought I'd nab it and start my own. A lot of the time you get stuff like "buy me such and such" or "give me ice cream or backrubs" and things like that. I decided I wanted mine to be a bit more meaningful than that. So here it is: How To Love Me

1) Don't disrespect my family. Any of them, but especially my immediate family. Even if you think that I'm mad or disappointed or peeved with anyone in my family, that's not an excuse to insult them on my behalf. It's the rare person who has disrespected my family and gotten a second chance from me. This goes double for my parents.

2) Accept that my pets and I are a package deal. You don't have to love my dogs or be enamoured of my iguana or pretend to adore my birds. But don't assume that I'm silly for feeling the way I do about them. They are part of my family. Don't belittle my attachment to them.

3) Accept my fringey and weird friends. I have a small social circle made up of the craziest and most eccentric and eclectic kinds of people. I don't "collect" people. They are honestly my friends who happen to have a wide variety of interests. Don't judge them because you think they are weird or different. If they weren't good people I wouldn't hang out with them.

4) Likewise don't judge me for my weird interests, although they may seem childish to you. I like anime and manga and video games. I am a Star Wars geek who has a pewter Millennium Falcon in the back window of her car. I like to run around in the woods brandishing a sword and making up stupid movies with my friends. I will probably be this way until I'm 90, or until I can't walk anymore.

5) Don't push religion on me. That's the surest way not to earn my friendship.

6) Don't push your lifestyle on me. Accept mine and let me live it. I'm a vegetarian and a supporter of animal rights. I don't talk the talk much (I won't bother you for habits,) but I walk the walk. That also means that I don't use products that have been tested on animals if I can help it. Most animal lovers don't bother to avoid stuff like that, but I am as diligent as possible about it. It's not strange or pathetic and I don't like to have to defend it all the time.

7) Don't hate on others--or me--because of race. ANY race. In the past I've been insulted because I'm part white (and dance Hula--at least one person hated me because of it,) and also because I'm part Italian, part Irish, and part Native American. DO NOT diss on Native Americans if we are to get along.

8) When you find out that I'm a Hula dancer, don't wiggle your hips and arms and ask to see my coconut bra. I don't even own one. It's my duty to try my best to malama--to care for--the Hawaiian culture. Don't disrespect it!

9) When you find out that I am learning Kung Fu, don't assume that I'm not good at it because I am a girl or that I'm taking it just to be tough. If I'm not good at it or do something wrong, it's because of my own personal limits, NOT because I am a woman. Some of the best students in the academy are women. My first Lao Shir is a woman and she outranks and outclasses each and every single man in the academy aside from Sifu. My decision to learn Kung Fu was not frivolous or based on vanity.

10) A tiger cannot change its stripes, I guess. I'm 33 and will probably always be lazy and unambitious. On my days off, I sleep soundly until 10 AM, and then I like to spend the rest of the day writing, drawing, cleaning, or playing with my pets. My only true ambitions are to teach Hula and to become a published writer. My genre is fantasy / sci-fi. I might not be the best at it, but it's something I love doing.

11) Don't assume because I've drawn something or made an animation or otherwise spent some time on a project that I've got "too much time on my hands." It's called a hobby. Everyone should have them, and that's what free time is for.

12) I love a good laugh, and I can get pretty vulgar and stupid with my friends when we get on a roll. But keep in mind that when it comes down to it, I demand and deserve respect. Jokes are just that: jokes, and my friends and I don't mean anything by them. So when we yell at each other, "HEY WHORE!" understand that this is a running gag among close friends, and none of us are to actually be treated that way.

13) Call before coming to my house! No one appreciates a drop-in, least of all me.

14) That said, don't call me on the phone all the time. If you've got my phone number, use it sparingly. I don't like talking on the phone. Understand that it's just a quirk of mine, and don't take it personally. I'm not one of these people who needs to chat the day away on the phone in order to feel accepted.

15) This is a big one: Don't drink and drive. I don't like to nag my friends, but when someone drinks and then thinks it's all right to drive, it makes me sick. Even if someone is just buzzed or thinks that their buzz is wearing off, and they go to drive, it still makes me sick. Don't expect ME to drink and drive. If I've got to drive, I won't even have a single alcoholic drink. If you do this kind of thing, and you finally get pulled over and get a DWI, I won't say "I told you so." I'll just be quietly relieved that you got caught before you hurt someone or yourself. Also, I'm more than happy to be anyone's desi, and I'm always available to pick up any of my friends who has had a drink and doesn't have any other way home.

You can do all of that? In that case,

Roses are #ff0000
Violets are #000ff
All my base
Are belong to YOU! *

^_^


(*I own that T shirt)